Don't blame your hormones the next time you feel like saying "not tonight honey". Blame your deliciously greasy dinner. According to Dr Rishi Bansal, a sexologist, the key to good sex is proper blood circulation. And to get your blood pumping, you need to eat food that is light, easy to digest and improves the blood flow. Here are five foods you should include in your diet for some hot action in bed
Popeye propagated only half the benefits of spinach. Leafy vegetables such as spinach contain vitamin E and iron, which helps produce more oestrogen the hormone that ups sex drive in women. And it ups levels of testosterone in men which means more action in bed! So here's another reason t have your greens.
According to Dr Bansal, high energy equals good sex. "And nuts and dry fruits are a good source of vitamin B3, which increases your stamina," he says. So, keep these handy on a day you feel drained out. Give these to your man too as they help increase sperm count. And increased sperm count invariably means more sex.

"Garlic increases heat in the body. When added regularly in your daily diet, it has a positive effect on your sexual hormones," says sexologist Dr Mahesh Bhagat. Just…don't forget to brush after you have it. Spicy food helps up your sex drive too as it balances the levels of hormones in your body. So, bring on the spicy curries!
Omega-3 fatty acids make your nervous system function more efficiently, making you calmer. A stress-free you is more likely to be game for action in bed. Fish also contains selenium, zinc and magnesium, all of which ups your sex drive. Include chicken in your diet, as they too are a good source of healthy fats and Vitamin B-complex that helps our system to release sex hormones.
Ginseng, a fleshy root has L-Arsine, an organic substance that increases the release of sex hormones during the act. It also gives you instant energy.
So now you know what to rummage for in your kitchen for some steamy sessions in bed.

Give Her time to Get Into the Mood
It takes time to get a woman into the mood. A woman’s body is like the meat just taken out from a freezer and it takes time to heat it up. Most women don’t like to have sex directly without a brief warm up session. Foreplay is crucial and can be skipped only if she is already in a highly aroused state. A woman can be brought into the mood by kissing and touching the various parts of her body like neck, back, inner thighs, breasts, and belly button. You can then proceed to caress the more private areas of her body. But, remember to be gentle in the process lest you may end up physically hurting her in the process.

Talk Dirty

A little bit of dirty talking during the foreplay process too helps in getting her into the mood. There are no limits; all you have to do is to use some words that excite her. Select your words depending upon the preferences. Some women like forceful words while the others prefer romantic lyrics. But, ensure that you don’t use any derogatory words which may upset her mood in the process.

Set the Mood for Sex

Creating a conducive environment to sex is necessary if you want to get your partner into a certain mood. Make your bedroom look good by putting attractive paintings and good furniture. Never keep unnecessary things in your bedroom like laundry which will make it dirty and unattractive. Install dimmers on the overhead lights of your bedroom and avoid fluorescent lights as they may spoil the mood and cause headache and fatigue. Other things which can help in setting her mood for sex are romantic music, soft fabrics, sex toys and porn magazines. You can also stretch your imagination to other rooms in your home like living room or kitchen if you prefer to make love in those places too.

Get yourself Familiar with a Woman’s Hot Spots

Know and remember your women’s hot spots like clitoris, G-Spot and other pleasure places. This is considered to be quiet important as they help in getting her to reach orgasm. Clitoris is like the penis of a woman and is located where the lips of vagina meet. G-Spot is located some where between 2 to three inches from the opening of her vagina. Unlike the clitoris, locating a G-Spot is tricky as it differs from one woman to the other. Other spots which should not be forgotten are her neck, inner thighs, nipples, ears etc.

Engage in Two-way Communication

Engaging in two-way communication will help in understanding her tastes and preferences better. Some couples feel embarrassed to talk openly about sex as they think that this will hurt the egos of others. Woman also think that they will be ridiculed if they talk openly about sex in the bed. Encourage two communication and view it as her attempt to please you. Two-way communication increases intimacy between the couple which can make the sexual experience great.

Build Sexual Tension

Build sexual tension by pushing and pulling her up and down, back and forward, and start and stop. Women get turned up by this pattern as it slowly builds anticipation about love making. This builds the feeling of your woman desiring sex without knowing what or when it might happen. Women get sexually aroused if you can build tension in intervals. This can be achieved by taking two steps forward and one step backward. Kiss and cuddle her, stop and then start again. Go a little further than the previous time when ever you start and go.

Understand the Importance of Emotional Intimacy

Emotional intimacy is different from sexual intimacy and is very important in arousing your female partner. Emotional intimacy helps in understanding each other better and accept each other for who they are. The most important tip to increase emotional intimacy is to maintain eye contact during talking. Touching a woman not just with the sexual intention will also help in making her feel important. Another important tip is to appreciate her for all contribution in improving the relationship. Encourage her to search and learn things like love making positions that can improve her pleasure both sexually and emotionally.

Oral Sex

A fact least understood by many men is that most of the women love oral sex. Women like oral sex because it gives as much pleasure for a woman as it does to a man. But, you should give oral sex in a very gentle way to a woman. Start oral sex by giving light touches to her inner thighs using your lips. Then, slowly move towards her vagina and use your tongue to massage the external area of it in an up and down-motion for some time. Using your hands for massaging her clitoris during oral sex will add to the pleasure.

All Women are not the Same

The last and most important tip to be remembered by men is that all women are not the same. You may learn lot of love making techniques by reading sex guides. Do remember to understand her sexuality before you start using all the newly learned techniques on her. All women don’t respond similarly to a particular type of sexual simulation. You may need to customize the technique to suit your woman. For this you have to observe her body language and other delicate signals like rapid breathing, moaning, reddish hot skin etc. Using a technique for sexual simulation in the same way for all types of women might end up in a disaster.
You don’t need to turn to Viagra every time you feel sexually inactive. There are plenty of natural foods that can be equally effective in sprucing up your sex life. Better yet, these substitutes come albeit any side effects and can help you concentrate on the task, without worrying about what’s going to happen next? So if you are looking for an excellent natural substitute to rekindle your sex life, here are some of the best foods you can try out.

Spinach and Other Leafy Greens:
Vitamin E is known to stimulate the increased production of sex hormones and spinach (along with other leafy veggies) contains loads of Vitamin E. The high zinc content of spinach improves sperm quality and quantity in men, thereby treating conditions like erectile dysfunction. The high manganese content of spinach also helps the female body product more estrogen, thereby boosting libido and increasing fertility.

Spice up your sex life with spices! Chilies can increase sex drive by improving blood circulation throughout the body (in this case, to the reproductive organs). Better yet, chilies can stimulate the release of endorphins; feel good hormones that keep you aroused for extended periods.

A glass of pomegranate juice a day would increase your sex drive to an all-time high within a month! Pomegranates are loaded with antioxidants, which help flush out harmful radicals from the body and increase blood circulation to the major organs (including the genitals) in the process. Moreover, this would boost your libido to a great extent. Men who drink pomegranate juice regularly also have less chance of developing other conditions like prostate cancer in the future.

Forget their shape! Bananas can do more than just look sexually appealing. Bananas contain Vitamin E, which is known to be a potent energy booster. Eating bananas can therefore keep you sexually active for longer periods. In addition to this, bananas stimulate the increased production of testosterone in men, thereby treating conditions like erectile dysfunction effectively.

Eating about 500 gms of this fruit and any other fruit that contains Vitamin C can increase your sex drive effectively. In addition to keeping you sexually active for longer periods, strawberries can greatly improve sperm quality and quantity in men.

An excellent natural substitute for Viagra, watermelon contains an amino acid called Citrulline. When consumed, Citrulline urges the body to produce another amino acid called Arginine. Arginine is a potent sex stimulant that helps relax the blood vessels and increase blood flow to the genitals.

As mentioned above, Arginine helps improve libido largely. And raisins are loaded with arginine. So if you are feeling sexually inactive lately, munch on a handful of raisins every day to bounce back up. Raisins also increase your energy levels so you perform better during sex.

Playing with chocolate is considered one of the best ways to kick up a fiery sex session. However, did you know that it can do more than just that? Chocolate contains a compound called Serotonin, which is a potent libido enhancer. Added to this is the fact that chocolates also contain chemicals called phenethylamines, which relax your body and mind so you can focus on (and enjoy) sex better.

Oysters contain high amounts of zinc that would stimulate the increased production of arginine, which in turn would increase your libido. And they taste good too! So next time, you are feeling low (sexually) and come across some freshly cooked oysters, you know what to do!

Finally, Oats:
To increase you sexual desire is another reason to have oats for your breakfast every day. Oats can keep you sexually active for longer periods and regularize the testosterone levels (estrogen levels for women) in the body and this would no doubt increase your libido considerably.